Actions will always speak louder than words. People are always talking, and often, they talk too much. With that being said, I’ve had a lot of people apologize to me over the years and didn’t even mean it. Most people will just say, “I’m Sorry!” for stealing, lying, and cheating expecting forgiveness, instead of just proving it.
A former friend of mine acted really shady towards me. This is when I was a very naive little boy who always wanted to give and help everyone. I remember letting this kid borrow my iPod Nano just for a day. I go up to him at the bus stop and he said he didn’t have it and he gave it back to me yesterday. I saw him at his locker and guess what, he had it in his locker. I took it out of his locker and I asked him about the situation. He told me that he forgot to give it back and he was sorry. I couldn’t even believe it. He was never going to return my iPod nano, he was going to keep it or probably sell it for money. Looking back at it he was never going to give it back so his apology meant nothing to me. I haven’t talked to that guy in years, I’m keeping it that way!
Furthermore, the world is an imperfect place and most people aren’t trustworthy at all. This is why I could never understand cheating. How could you just say you’re sorry and then cheat on that person again after they have taken you back? If you didn’t want to be in a relationship then why don’t you just say so? You’re not really sorry if you are a cheater. You’re not. You are the kind of person that wants to have their cake and eat it too. And if you follow me on Instagram you know I absolutely hate cake. Cheaters don’t need to be in relationships, It’s not cool to hurt the people who loved and trusted you because of your own personal insecurities. A simple apology doesn’t mean anything after you’ve hurt someone like that. People should be able to stay in a committed relationship and not cheat on their spouse, right? Well, if you believe this, you have too much faith in humanity.
Lastly, if someone apologizes to you do not believe them right away. Watch them, study their behavior and their actions and then you will truly know if that person is sorry or not. A lot of people have a tendency to apologize on cue as if its rehearsed. People are great actors nowadays. Therefore, it’s crucial to study people’s actions after they have apologized to you.
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