After twenty-five years of living and learning more about life, I can confidently say, “I AM TIRED OF LIVING AN UNFULFILLED LIFE!” I am now more focused and driven to make a new life for myself and remaining indifferent towards random people’s opinions. It’s time to eliminate anything that holds you back from your goals, career, and further aspirations. Easier said than done, right? Before you start saying, “I am willing to start over” you have to actually be willing to start over. What’s it’s going to be? Are you going keep dying with regrets? Or start living with a new purpose?
I’ve had to fix myself over the years. After the nights of heavy drinking and stoned nights I had gained so much weight and felt awful. I neglected any sense of direction or any desire to become a better person. Instead of talking about the problem with people who probably didn’t care anyway, I decided to do something about it. I changed my eating habits, stopped binge drinking and smoking.
When we steer away from our purpose we become complaisant. We no longer care which leads to our depression and anxiety. It’s merely the fear of not knowing what we’re supposed to do and who to be. In the process of starting over, you will have to discuss the problem with a medical professional and figure out a way to SOLVE THE PROBLEM. One thing I can’t stand is someone who keeps complaining about a problem and doesn’t even try to fix it. Then, to make matters worse, they blame everyone else. It’s understandable that you have been hurt but WHAT HAS BLAMING OTHERS DONE FOR YOU!!!
Letting go is easier said than done. The hardest times in your life come from the people who have hurt you. I’ve had many people hurt me to the point where I couldn’t take it anymore. I had to realize that this wasn’t good for not just my body but most importantly my soul. At the age of 18–23, I’ve spent the majority of my time trying to impress people and all I did was hurt myself. Now that I’m 25-years-old, I realize I distanced myself from a lot of people and uncomfortable situations because I couldn’t move forward in my life.
I used to relate to Bob the Builder because of his willingness to fix everything. I can imagine how long Bob the Builder would live if he was actually alive. My guess, until the age of 50. I’ve tried really hard to fix relationships, friendships, family, toxic people, and jobs. Now I learned to stop telling myself, “Caleb, just give people more time and they will understand you and fix themselves. They’ll finally cherish who you are.” In reality, I can’t fix everything. People have to LEARN how to fix themselves and if they don’t. Well, It’s not your problem. You can’t help people who don’t want to help themselves.
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