We are not Niggas or Bitches

Niggas ain’t shit, bitches ain’t shit. It’s comical because these people don’t realize the hurt that they are causing. We tear our fellow man or woman apart and don’t analyze or recognize the psychological damage we cause our children and the younger generation.

Dad has his daughters or sons at his house while is telling his buddies “Bitches ain’t shit” and bragging about the women he’s had sex with. My dad was guilty of this behavior. He referred to my mother as being, “fat, ugly and other profane words when he had me at his buddies house. Although now I know he spoke from the anger in his life, it still hurt hearing this when I was younger. Oftentimes, when I didn’t know how to deal with rejection from women. I would just join my friends and say, “Bitches ain’t shit, they all have another nigga they’re messing with anyway” I understand now, there are good women and bad women out there, not all of them are the same. I needed to stop being spiteful because I can’t have the younger generation believe negative these thoughts about women.

I want you to look at this photo. Unfortunately, Dad has left his wife, daughter and his son for reasons unknown. The mother is saying, “I don’t need a man.” and the daughter is now saying, “I don’t want a man.” After the son hears this, he is now saying, “I don’t want to be a man.” When a young male feels ashamed to be a man because of the lack of men surrounding his life, this creates severe psychological damage to his brain. Dad left and it’s sad but the son doesn’t have to suffer from this.

The more I look at this photo I can’t help but reminisce about my church boy days during middle school. My church organized Saturday nights, once a month for us all to come together and talk about the bible and our personal problems. One night, my mother dropped me off this middle-aged woman’s house. When I arrived, it was me, the nice woman, and four other girls around my age making small talk. The conversation then starts to be about guys. All I can remember is being subjected to these girls my age saying, “These niggas ain’t shit.” Meanwhile, the adult woman in the house isn’t doing a damn thing. She’s letting them carry on instead of saying, “Stop talking down on guys like this. The lord didn’t teach you this.” Furthermore, one of the girls tells me, “Don’t be like those boys Caleb, be one of the good guys.” At that moment, I felt worthless and ashamed. All I could do is not say nothing because I felt attacked, most importantly though, I too, “Didn’t want to be a man!” Unfortunately, I just felt like a “Ain’t shit nigga” because a couple of females made me feel like that way. Sure they didn’t know any better. It’s just a shame that a woman of God couldn’t even say anything on my behalf, she just kept silent.

We call each other bitches and niggas without realizing the psychological damage we are passing on to our children. Children are already influenced by “tell-all” vision and music which is already corrupting their brains. We as adults are continuing this corruption by talking down to one another like this. I can’t believe I have to tell adults to act like adults. Stop calling each other niggas and bitches all ready and set an example for yourselves. Treat each other like Kings and Queens. Enough is enough already!

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