The closed door

I keep my door closed because I enjoy my privacy. In a world where everybody talks more and listens less, it’s better to keep your life private. As soon as I get home from my job I play Jazz, lite a sage and I remind myself that I have peace of mind and I survived another day with people. Trusting everyone is not easy. Alot of people aren’t willing to fight the same physical and mental battle that you are fighting. It becomes tiresome to trust that everybody has good intentions. It’s also detrimental to your health as well.

Effort is lost in this world and it’s the reason why most relationships fail. Years ago, I closed the door on a woman who proved she wasn’t there for me. We were together for two months and I thought everything was great. All of a sudden, I didn’t hear from her for two weeks. We haven’t talked ever since and now I’m realizing it’s better this way. Instead of being resentful and frustrated, I started realizing that you can’t make any woman stay in your life if they don’t want to. The biggest lie we are told is that we need someone to complete us. I don’t need a woman to validate or complete me, I can do that myself.

As far as the internet goes, It’s time to not look for validation from tinder or other social websites and truly love yourself. Stop paying attention to the comments and likes from strangers, their opinions do not matter. I’m seeing this growing trend on social media of “FAKE SELF-LOVE” which consists of self-destruction. One minute the post is, “You have to live your life to the fullest and be as happy as you can.” The next post is, (Girl taking a pic. With a bottle of Amsterdam) and the caption reads, “Wild night” There is a difference between enjoying yourself and doing too damn much. So many wild and risque photos online of people who claim to be having fun. But what happens behind that closed door? That’s the question to be asked because once the door is closed and everyone is gone, here you are, depressed and lonely because you have no idea who you are. You are most likely an alcoholic or a druggie in denial who needs real help not an internet full of strangers who most likely, tell you what you want to hear.

The point I’m trying to convey is that instead of saving face and posting about how great your life is on social media you should practice what you preach because the internet and the real world are two entirely different things. Nobody posts their struggles on social media, just the good times. It makes you wonder, is their life really that great all of the time or is it just the photo? So ask yourself, are you really happy with the people that you surround self with? When you close your bedroom door, do you even know who you truly are? Because if you don’t. You have a lot of self-discovery to do.

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  1. Wow! This post is so deep! I can’t lie. I’m very much a social media addict! I’m very much working on how much time I spend on social media though. In the end, you are right. After posting all the fun times online and pretending to be happy you realize you’re alone and not really happy or as connected with people as you think. The people online know only so much about you, because they only see what you want them to see. That’s why it’s so important to unplug and spend some alone time to self reflect like you said, and spend some time with loved ones in real life. That’s important. All the likes and comments in the world aren’t going to make a person truly happy. We see that from celebrities who receive all of that on social media, but sadly still commit suicide.


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