I wouldn’t consider myself a traditional person by any means. Especially when it comes to the phrase , “Happy Wife Happy Life” I truly believe that everyone’s happiness should be taken in consideration. What about the men in this situation? What are we teaching our young boys? That making a woman happy, putting her on a pedistol just because, is acceptable. Your woman has to add to your happiness and vice versa. It’s not all about one person because relationship means two people, not one. No wonder so many marriages fail. Most men marry women just on physical attraction. Not because she adds to your peace, values your team, cooks, cleans and just overall, isn’t insufferable.
I don’t think woman realize what their saying when they repeat, “Happy Wife, Happy Life” so let me explain what it means. In translation, his happiness, feelings or emotions do not matter. He’s just going to say, “Whatever makes you happy babe!” because he doesn’t have a backbone and is afraid of her leaving him. In return, she’s still miserable and always seems unsatisfied. Meanwhile, this has now caused the “man” to be very sarcastic and cynical towards everybody because he doesn’t feel appreciated in the marriage. He won’t say it, he will just ignore it which leads to suicidal and sometimes, homicidal tendencies.
I’ve talked to a couple of married men who believe in this phrase. He doesn’t smile or anything. He’s very passive to answer if he’s actaully happy as well. It’s just weird that a guy would even say things such as:
1. Well sometimes my wife likes me
2. Oh I can’t stand being around her
3. It doesn’t matter if I’m not happy son but if your mother isn’t happy well it’s a problem
4. My wife won’t even talk to me sometimes.
But I thought “Happy Wife is a Happy Life right?” I mean that doesn’t sound like happiness to me. That sounds like misery. Why would I in my right mind ever subscribe to this. Common sense alone says before we even getting married she should be happy within herself. I should only ADD to her happiness and vice versa. It shouldn’t be MY main responsibility to go above and beyond to make her happy. Nowadays, I ask myself various questions whenever I’m talking to a woman because I’d like something long-term not short-term.
1. Is she still clubbing every weekend?
2. Does she drink excessive alcohol?
3. Is she overly promiscuous?
4. Will she add to my happiness?
5. Is she even happy within herself?
These questions are crucial because if the answer is no to all of my questions forget marriage, she isn’t even relationship material. Obviously, she’s self-absorbed within herself and needs Jesus and a therapist because it’s not normal to prelong your college days. Eventuall, you tone down the drinking and straigthen up because men are not responsible for fixing broken woman.