In a world where everybody is striving to be more positive, we sometimes forget that negative things happen out of our control. Most of us never say anything in fear of being portrayed as “negative” when in reality, we just wanted someone to vent to ease our minds. Since we’ve convinced ourselves no one is listening we tend to imagine the worst. However, this is not necessarily a bad thing.
When I was in college I remember I had a big test to study for. My friends, teacher, and other peers made it seem like it was easy. Since I didn’t want to come across as a “Negative Nancy”, I kept my mouth shut. I’ve always struggled with this kind of mentality because in middle school and high school I couldn’t keep up with the other kids due to my learning disability. Therefore, it took me a very long time to ask questions without fear of being judged, called stupid, or hearing the whispers or laughter. It’s a hard mentality to shake because you have to physically and mentally silence those thoughts all on your own. Which is exhausting within itself.
So I sat there for about a week or so studying my ass off for this test. In the back of my mind, I kept visualizing myself failing the test over and over again. Then, I just stopped. After replaying every worst-case scenario possible, I conditioned my brain to just stop worrying and be at peace. I realized that if I failed the test, fine, that sucks but there will be other tests to take. It’s only one test and it’s not like I didn’t pass group projects, other tests, online discussion boards, presentations, and didn’t show up to class. In the end, my grade will not suffer greatly!
After coming to this realization, when I took the test I passed! I truly believe since I visualized everything that could go wrong and then I re-evaluated my thinking, I was able to put my mind at ease. It’s been one of the hardest things to do because in school you have so much pressure on you. You tend to get caught up in your own emotions instead of rationalizing your thoughts. Once you learn to let go of the burden of failure, you finally become successful. It does require a great amount of time and patience because the new trend is, ‘Just be positive” without realizing we can’t escape negativity, we have to just embrace it.
Lastly, don’t think of negative visualization as a bad thing. Out weighing every bad situation only leaves you with positive solutions because you can’t complain anymore. Nothing is holding you back and that’s the best feeling ever and once you have obtained this freedom you are truly free.