Overtime, we’ve lost patience. We want things to fall into our lap without realizing, it takes time. Each day you need to establish a routine, set long-term and short-term goals, and be patient. It is going to take a while to accomplish things such as making a lot of money, gaining 5 pounds of muscle, and getting our degree, just to name a few.
I’m a writer so I’m forced to be patient. When I was writing my latest book, “Suffering in Silence: August 15th, 2003” it took me TWO YEARS to finish! I”ll admit, when I started my new job I was overwhelmed. I didn’t take any action and I procrastinated a lot which led to the due date being extended. I felt like such a failure and even doubted myself as a writer. However, when I came across the term delayed gratification, I understood and appreciated this long process.
I cannot celebrate my book just yet though. Yes, I’m proud of my accomplishment but I’ve realized that there is still more to do. As human beings we tend to celebrate to early. It’s understandable. We’ve finally accomplished that long-term goal we had our eyes o but you must fight back against this feeling because it reads complacency.
Complacency is the hardest addiction that you will ever have to cure. Many of us have relapsed many times because we got too comfortable. We were eating too much instead of just appreciating the meal we had on our plate. The dealers are disguised in various forms such as social and mainstream media, gambling, pornography, sex, drugs, and alcohol.
At the beginning of 2020, I made a vow to myself to continue a straight-edge life. However, I felt I needed to step it up a notch. I have now eliminated anybody who is bringing me down, not trying to progress in life, avoid clubs and bars, and to hold myself accountable even if it hurts. Why? Because I need to be a better man.
Take it from me, I lived a life of complacency and it was never fun. I’d run away from opportunities and responsibilities because I live the life of two people. Good Caleb would work, write his books/blogs, exercise, and meditate. He’d never try to get in any trouble and inspired to do the right thing!
On the other hand, Bad Caleb would chase and mistreat women, blame others for his personal failures, hang out with the wrong crowd, and reject any opportunity thrown at me due to a fear of failure. I was searching for the thrill and “living”in the moment. The truth was, I just didn’t care about anything, including myself.
It wasn’t easy leaving my complacent lifestyle but it was worth it. Two years later, I have 3 book published, an established blog, podcast, radio, and television radio interviews and most importantly, just a clear mind.
Having mental clarity has really gave my life new meaning. I finally was able to return to the “Good Caleb” that clearly wasn’t seen for years. My complacent behavior could have been even worse but I realized that with time, sacrifice, and patience, you can achieve anything. So today, I challenge all of you to write a goal down, make a time line, and execute it. It will not be easy at first but it will be well worth it!