Let’s be honest. One of the reasons why you don’t fit in, don’t want to associate with everybody, and keep a distance from even your own friends and family is because at times you need your space. Many people are very needy for attention because they do not understand solitude. However, it’s not your responsibility to force them to understand how beautiful being alone is.
With that being said, people who appreciate their solitude like myself just want limited conversations. I’ll even admit it. I try not to acknowledge certain people because I know that they don’t have anything interesting to say. I know, it sounds harsh but let’s be real. Most people you come around (family, friends, strangers, and co-workers) these days only discuss Trump, corona, drama on television, and the weather. For someone as creative like myself these conversations are just boring and quite frankly, a waste of my time.
I just do my best to keep a neutral face towards most people who waste my time because many people are just over emotional and will never get it. Most of my conversations go something like this:
“Hey Caleb, how are you?”, said So and So
“I’m good.”, I’d tell them
“So.. did you hear its going to rain today?” , said So and So
“Cool.” I’d tell them
“You don’t talk much do you?” said So and So
“No, I’m just a quiet person that’s all.” I’d tell them
Eventually, they get the hint and just stop asking me so many boring questions. Also, when they stop talking or if I’m not interested I just walk away. I don’t believe we have to keep a conversation going with someone if the conversation just isn’t flowing. It’s no-one’s fault it’s just if a conversation doesn’t flow you can’t force it to.
The problem with many people is that they’ll never understand that not everyone wants to talk either. Majority of the time they just prefer silence in a world that doesn’t shut up. Since many people love conversation and love being around people or even being the center of attention I truly believe this is a hard pill for them to swallow. It often makes them feel as if someone hates them or that they did something wrong but it may not be the case. Many of you just need to understand that not everyone wants to have conversation with you. It’s nothing personal but many people in this world have been spoiled by solitude. So when nobody says anything that’s the only peace they can receive in a world that doesn’t stop talking.
For those of you who feel like your energy has been drained as of late you aren’t alone. Don’t make yourself upset because people don’t understand solitude. They just haven’t been educated on it yet. In conversations you don’t want to have with others it’s okay to keep your words short and sweet. Eventfully, they’ll get the point. Remember, you do not have to do give up your solitude to make others feel better about themselves. It’s not your responsibility to fix others but to simply to inform them.
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